Friday, May 25, 2012


Ladies, here we go again.  It's over.  Yep.  We found out yesterday, on our 15th anniversary, that the birth mother drank regularly during this pregnancy up until a few weeks ago.  Being due in early August, that's just not in the cards for us.

She did not disclose this in the original birth mother paperwork.  After much prayer and getting little sleep last night, I called the agency this morning to decline the case.  It was such a disappointing, heart-breaking call to make.  Just awful.

We want a child in our lives SO much.  But we decided back in the beginning of all of this that fetal alcohol exposure was not something we feel called to handle.  It's now called FASD, or fetal alcohol spectrum disorder.  I would have to be prepared to handle anything along that spectrum, and I know we are not called to do that.  If the birth mother had disclosed this at the beginning, we never would have been shown the case.


And it was a girl.


  1. I'm so, so sorry. I can't imagine how difficult this is.

  2. It is things like this that make me lose more and more faith in birthmothers in general. Just be upfront, there are lots of people wanting to adopt and ones who do feel called to this, but why put someone through this?! I'm very sorry for your loss again, because regardless it is a loss! Sending you love and prayers for this rollercoaster to end ASAP!!!!